Overcome Fear and Trust Yourself

• Do you doubt yourself and your decisions?
• Do you feel overwhelmed or terrified about an experience that happened to you?
• Have you been “walking on eggshells” around people so you don’t upset them?
• Have you felt violated?

You can feel safe again.

You are a smart, kind, hard-working person. You’ve had some hardships in your life and feel like you’re doing the best you can. You have had traumatic past experiences that made you feel confused and second-guess yourself. Maybe you still feel terrified and violated. You’ve been suffering in silence for a while. You cry more than you want to. You’ve been ashamed, thinking you should be over this by now. You’ve put off dealing with it and now feel stuck and hopeless.

You justify your situation by telling yourself “It’s not so bad,” or “It’ll get better somehow.” Meanwhile, you’re distracted and worried. When you confide in others about what you’re dealing with, they don’t really know how to help you. They might even blame you by telling you it’s all in your head which hurts and isolates you more. You have secrets that you feel you need to keep. You’re worried that there must be something really wrong with you if you need talk to a therapist. You just don’t want to be judged.

You’re not going crazy.

You may feel afraid to reflect or talk about painful things from the past because you fear they will overwhelm you. You fear you are too much for someone. You’ve thought, why bother opening up to someone; the past should stay in the past! You feel ashamed that it’s been this way for so long.

You feel like you should have dealt with this already – but those feelings just won’t go away. It’s hard to admit this to anyone, even those you love and trust. You feel like they won’t really get it. You want to feel calm, connected and capable, but you don’t know how to get there. There’s nothing wrong with needing help. You’re only human after all. For all that you’ve been through, it’s time to give yourself some compassion. You do so much to take care of the important people in your life. Now it’s time to take care of yourself. You deserve to be heard, believed, and understood.

How I Can Help

I help people work through the effects of trauma so they can feel less anxious, safe, and calm. Brainspotting is an effective brain-body therapy that uses the body’s natural capacity to heal itself Brainspotting is a technique that systematically helps us focus on specific anxieties and events that feel charged and cause discomfort for you. We will work together to design experiences that will generate a sense of calmness, connection and capacity in your whole being. Much like the body knows what to do when you get a wound, the psyche is no different. For the wound to heal, one needs to clean it and give it time to heal. The psyche has that capacity as well – it just needs to be provided with the conditions to heal. Brainspotting helps to provide those optimal conditions.

It takes a lot of energy to keep a lid on these feelings. You want and know you need help. You long to feel more freedom to be your true self and want to feel more capable in all areas of your life.