Procrastinating isn’t a sign of laziness. It’s your inner critic come to life. In this episode, she explains how you can kick the habit.
Every January, many of us resolve to stop procrastinating. We make lists. We buy journals. We download new apps. And yet we still put off things that we could have done right away. Here are some tips to kick the habit. Procrastination is typically a dysfunctional way of coping with unwanted emotions and feelings of anxiety, depressive feelings, self-doubt or even fear.
The type of person often has really big issues with procrastination is someone who struggles with perfectionism. The thought is, OK, if I can’t do it perfect right now, I won’t do it. I’ll just wait until I’m in a setting or a situation where I can be completely perfect at it. And it’s unrealistic and irrational because we typically are going to have some sort of reason why things can’t be perfect.
That inner critic is the voice inside your head. That voice has been attacking your self-worth over time and might be preventing you from getting things done. It could be something you absorbed from caregivers, coaches, teachers, other people of influence. And eventually, you started to think of it as your own voice. But that voice is not your own. So I think the first step is, you know, doing that inner work and identifying, OK, what is my negative self-talk telling me?
Sometimes, it’s not only the inner critic; it’s culture. Sometimes people tend to procrastinate self-care activities like vacations and doctor’s appointments if we feel like we have to work hard to be recognized at work or if we’re often socialized to take care of everyone around us to our detriment
Another concept that comes up is imposter syndrome. It’s the idea that we hold internally that we’re only successful due to luck and not because of our own talent and our own merit. And so imposter syndrome can be a barrier to us believing that we deserve permission to take a break, to rest and to care for ourselves.
Iff you’re procrastinating wellness and rest, plan ahead and delegate. Block out vacations in advance, and put systems in place so you can work towards your time away and feel secure that all your goals are met. Once you get your groove back, you’ll be ready to employ some practical tips to help keep procrastination at bay. First, identify small goals. Work on something for a short amount of time – say, 10 minutes. Second, if you need more structure. I recommend trying the Ivy Lee method:
At the end of the day, you write down six of the most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow, and it’s just six; maybe even less if your day is slammed.
List them out in order of true importance. Tackle those things and only those things the next day, whenever you have the most energy. If you’re still struggling, consider meeting with a therapist that specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy, short-term, goal-oriented problem therapy treatment.
But procrastination – is it bad if it’s planned and strategic?
One thing I try to remind myself is there are seasons sometimes in life, right? And so we all go through seasons. We all go through ebb and flow. And it’s OK to put things aside and revisit them when you’re in a better place or you have more time to get things done in an effective manner.