by Courtenay Monfore | Mar 28, 2022 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Accepting love isn’t always so easy. Many people have the feeling that they are not deserving of romantic love, but this is not a healthy, productive, or useful feeling. While it is common, it is something that needs to be addressed or it will have a negative...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 27, 2021 | Blog, Trauma
There’s a voice inside that we wish we could just silence. It’s our inner-critic, or negative self-talk. In pop psychology, some believe that this is the internalized voice of our parents. And while there’s a kernel of truth to this, I hate to break it you— but,...
by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 11, 2021 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
Have you ever thought, “What is wrong with me?” If so, you are not alone. Nearly everyone, from time to time, has had that thought. For some, it’s a fleeting moment of self-doubt, while for others it might be a lifelong feeling of not measuring up or not being good...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 13, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
While our culture is death-obsessed in the morbid curiosity sense, we are also a grief-avoidant society. I learned this when working with clients and when my brother died. People, it turns out, so often don’t like to be around folks who are sad, nor do they know how...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 6, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Want a fulfilling relationship? It all begins with knowing and healing the real you. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi Our Need for Love Human beings are not made to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 2, 2021 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
Anxiety in the workplace is a serious problem. What can you do to stay calm, rational, and productive when dealing with a stressful situation? When U.S. Marine Corp Officer Jake D.’s vehicle drove over an explosive device in Afghanistan, he looked down to see his legs...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Lacking empathy for how their actions affect others, narcissists feel entitled to use other people. This makes it especially important to set firm boundaries with them. Here are seven effective approaches: 1. Don’t justify, explain, or defend yourself. Narcissists use...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 21, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Fear of trust is so common it’s an official phobia: pistanthrophobia— a big name for an equally big problem. And while not trusting anyone keeps you safe from hurt and betrayal, it also leaves you isolated and suspicious. How does this happen? How does one lose faith...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 14, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
It isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it. Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of. It is essential and universal to all human beings, a driving force in our connections. It can...
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Blog, Trauma
“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” ~Lori Deschene Sometimes people can be really terrible to themselves and relentlessly compare themselves to other people, no matter how many times they read or hear about how good enough or lovable...
