by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 26, 2022 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.”...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 19, 2022 | Anxiety, Blog, Trauma
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers When was the last time you stopped trying to improve something about yourself or your life? Some people spend a lot of their life chasing goals. There’s nothing...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 12, 2022 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
The importance of gratitude, smiles, and deep breaths. KEY POINTS Stress can keep our bodies in a state of fear, making it hard to enjoy the holiday season. Practicing gratitude can help soothe the nervous system, making us less reactive and more relaxed. Simple...
by Courtenay Monfore | Nov 21, 2022 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
Figuring out your relationship status can be confusing. Here’s how to clarify. KEY POINTS Notice the signs early. Be honest about your feelings and ask for what you want. Communicate openly, not passively.Do you find yourself confused about the relationship you...
by Courtenay Monfore | Nov 8, 2022 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Everybody has those inner gremlins talking to them, bringing up the worst thoughts, second-guessing their instincts and being generally unkind. Where exactly do those critical voices come from? And why are they so mean? If you’re reading this, you probably know...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 22, 2022 | Anxiety, Relationships, Trauma
The truest, deepest love comes from within — but, like any other relationship, it takes work. Before you can truly show up for other people in your life, you need to be able to do the same for yourself. That means, taking credit for your accomplishments, learning to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 11, 2022 | Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Within each of us are powers and abilities we underestimate, but which can carry us through many challenges. You’re stronger than you think. 1. Imperfection Invulnerability is a classic superpower, but in real life pretending to have it tends to backfire. Instead,...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 4, 2022 | Blog, Trauma
There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may shortchange the future—which starts by our envisioning something better. It’s not past experience that keeps people stuck but the habits developed to cope with it. By...
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 11, 2022 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
It’s no secret COVID has caused prolonged extreme stress. Here’s how the effects of that may be showing up in your life right now. When we talk about trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder, there is usually a singular life-altering event that triggers...
by Courtenay Monfore | Mar 28, 2022 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Accepting love isn’t always so easy. Many people have the feeling that they are not deserving of romantic love, but this is not a healthy, productive, or useful feeling. While it is common, it is something that needs to be addressed or it will have a negative...