by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 19, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Many people I work with have either just had an awakening, or are about to. I have the honor of being a witness to these awakenings. Awakenings are not like in the movies.You know, where the protagonist experiences their quantum shift with elegance and grace, leading...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 29, 2019 | Brainspotting, Therapy, Trauma
We all know that rejection hurts, but neuroscience has concluded that it does in fact, literally, hurt. While the brain does not process emotional pain and physical pain identically, the reaction and cascading events are very similar, and a natural chemical...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 22, 2019 | Trauma
Maybe your partner doesn’t hit you. Maybe their violence doesn’t leave visible scars. The cleverness of an abuser knows where to draw the line. At some point, you realize they have actually been in control—it wasn’t a senseless rage—and was doing...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 15, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
We all want to be loved. In these days of self-help books, life coaches, and personal development, it’s tempting to think that the only way to be loved is to change ourselves. We apologize for being who we are. We beat ourselves up when we make mistakes. We feel like...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 8, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Whenever you’re stressed, sad or hurt or simply need some soothing, it helps to have a collection of comforting — and healthy — tools to turn to. But some helpful activities don’t work for everyone. For example, some people are allergic smells, drinks or foods....
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 1, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Brainspotting, Therapy, Trauma
Philosophers and theologians have been speaking and writing about the search for meaning in life for thousands of years. And most of us reach a point where we want more than to go through the motions of living. That means identifying our values so we can live a...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 24, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
I’m keeping it real today folks. Let’s talk about what really creates happiness, and what doesn’t. Kris Cage, writer for Medium, an online publishing platform, wrote an article about what we need to do away with in order to create happiness in our...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 17, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Have you ever said yes when you really wanted to say no? Do you feel that fate has more influence on whether or not you find success? If you’re like many people who struggle with being passive, you may be looking for ways to increase assertiveness. You might...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 10, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Understanding your own needs, habits, and failings is impossible without improving self-awareness. Also called self-knowledge, self-awareness is the basis for self-improvement. The theory is, if you collect data about yourself you can improve based on that data....
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 3, 2019 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Overnight your sweet, considerate, cooperative child changes into a surly, rude, self-absorbed monster. What happened? Puberty, hormones, neurological and physical changes all affect your teen’s moods and behavior. But when does so-called normal teen moodiness cross...
