by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 22, 2022 | Anxiety, Relationships, Trauma
The truest, deepest love comes from within — but, like any other relationship, it takes work. Before you can truly show up for other people in your life, you need to be able to do the same for yourself. That means, taking credit for your accomplishments, learning to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 11, 2022 | Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Within each of us are powers and abilities we underestimate, but which can carry us through many challenges. You’re stronger than you think. 1. Imperfection Invulnerability is a classic superpower, but in real life pretending to have it tends to backfire. Instead,...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 4, 2022 | Blog, Trauma
There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may shortchange the future—which starts by our envisioning something better. It’s not past experience that keeps people stuck but the habits developed to cope with it. By...
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 11, 2022 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
It’s no secret COVID has caused prolonged extreme stress. Here’s how the effects of that may be showing up in your life right now. When we talk about trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder, there is usually a singular life-altering event that triggers...
by Courtenay Monfore | Mar 28, 2022 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Accepting love isn’t always so easy. Many people have the feeling that they are not deserving of romantic love, but this is not a healthy, productive, or useful feeling. While it is common, it is something that needs to be addressed or it will have a negative...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 27, 2021 | Blog, Trauma
There’s a voice inside that we wish we could just silence. It’s our inner-critic, or negative self-talk. In pop psychology, some believe that this is the internalized voice of our parents. And while there’s a kernel of truth to this, I hate to break it you— but,...
by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 11, 2021 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
Have you ever thought, “What is wrong with me?” If so, you are not alone. Nearly everyone, from time to time, has had that thought. For some, it’s a fleeting moment of self-doubt, while for others it might be a lifelong feeling of not measuring up or not being good...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 13, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
While our culture is death-obsessed in the morbid curiosity sense, we are also a grief-avoidant society. I learned this when working with clients and when my brother died. People, it turns out, so often don’t like to be around folks who are sad, nor do they know how...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 6, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Want a fulfilling relationship? It all begins with knowing and healing the real you. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi Our Need for Love Human beings are not made to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 2, 2021 | Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma
Anxiety in the workplace is a serious problem. What can you do to stay calm, rational, and productive when dealing with a stressful situation? When U.S. Marine Corp Officer Jake D.’s vehicle drove over an explosive device in Afghanistan, he looked down to see his legs...
