by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 19, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 14, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Trauma
The global coronavirus pandemic has created a new reality marked by grief and loss. Weddings, concerts, meetings, travels plans, school events, and more have been canceled in the wake of the virus. It has forced us to process both individual and collective grief in...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 31, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
1. The empath enters the relationship wanting deep, unconditional love. The empath is attracted to the narcissist, and feels their need for affection is being met even if the narcissist isn’t doing anything to develop the connection. The empath feels fulfilled and “in...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 24, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Not long ago, I had a triggering conversation with my partner. Yes, that happens to therapists too. But rather than going in on him, I said, “I need time to process what I’m feeling.” At the time, I was not sure which one of my selves (the grown-ass-woman or the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 3, 2020 | Blog, Brainspotting, Relationships, Trauma
You get upset. He blows up. She shuts down. The next day you can’t even remember why it bothered you so much. We’ve all been there, even therapists (we’re no more immune than anyone else). Here’s what I tell my clients about trauma and relationships, and the ways it...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 13, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
Everyone has experienced pain and hurt at some point in their lives. We have all felt like our trust has been compromised, and we wonder if we will ever be able to trust again. Those experiences can be very painful, and the feelings are completely normal. You are...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 6, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Shame is believing there is something innately wrong with us. Sometimes we don’t even recognize that how we are showing up in life is because we are full of shame. Until one day, shame makes and keeps us sick. Or we find ourselves stuck doing the same things over and...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Not long ago, I had a triggering conversation with my partner (yes, therapists are human and have triggering conversations too). But rather than going in on him, I said, “I need time to process what I’m feeling. At the time, I was not sure which one of my selves (the...
by Courtenay Monfore | May 11, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
Often times, months after you stop speaking to your abusive partner, your insecurities can remain on a loop in your head: “Why does everyone always leave me? Everyone abandons me.” The traumas you know your partner had experienced can pull you back to worrying...
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Brainspotting, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
There is no shortage of ways past trauma can show up in your present world. A scent or sound can trigger a flashback or a brief conversation with an abusive relative who is still in your life can knock you off course for days. Your heightened reactive experiences as a...
