by Courtenay Monfore | Jan 11, 2021 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy
What are boundaries? All relationships need boundaries. A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others. Your boundaries also tell other people how they can treat you...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 28, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy
No matter how much we believe we have our “shit” together, life carries many harsh truths, and no matter how much we may wish to run away from them, it is only through accepting them that we can take full responsibility for our lives. You may be aware of some of these...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 14, 2020 | Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Hope is important for resiliency. Here are ways to boost it. I’ve got the perfect four-letter word for the moment: Hope. Yes, it feels increasingly elusive—ten months into a pandemic, during an emotionally exhausting election cycle, as winter bears down. Yet hope is...
by Courtenay Monfore | Dec 7, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy
What are boundaries? All relationships need boundaries. A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others.Your boundaries also tell other people how they can treat you...
by Courtenay Monfore | Nov 30, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy
All of us worry that we’ve disappointed someone, whether it’s about a specific thing — we didn’t turn up to their birthday party because #selfcare — or about bigger issues — we aren’t living the “right” life with the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Nov 23, 2020 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
You’ll never reach your goals if you’re trying to be all things to all people. Over the years, I’ve seen countless people-pleasers in my therapy office. But more often than not, people-pleasing wasn’t really their problem; their desire to make others happy...
by Courtenay Monfore | Nov 16, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy
As a therapist, I’m privileged to be invited into the hearts and minds of many people. One thing I’ve come to believe over the years through my work as a therapist is this: we’re all struggling with “adulting” in some way. But most of us believe that no one else is...
by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 26, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy
Have you ever wished you were totally self-accepting? If so, here’s what to do. Admittedly, the various paths described below for achieving optimal mental and emotional health aren’t that simple. They involve a significant amount of time and effort. Plus, transforming...
by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 19, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly...
by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 12, 2020 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy
Most of us don’t like confrontation, but it’s a fact of life that we can’t run from forever. We have to assert ourselves, our boundaries, and our needs — and others have to do the same with us. There are a million terrible ways of expressing your frustration. Here’s...
