by Courtenay Monfore | Oct 4, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy
How can you tell if someone is right for you? Getting to know someone you really like is wonderful. You feel as if you could conquer the world. You stay up all night getting to know the other person and daydream about when you might see them again. And there is a good...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 27, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy
See the cascade of events that can lead to infidelity. WHAT WENT WRONG? It is hurtful and devastating when an affair shatters a relationship’s trusted stability. It leaves both partners to pick up the pieces before starting all over again, which is painful. One of the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 20, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy
Have a conversation that matters.In a dating relationship, getting to know each other is key. Every date, text, call, and interaction has the potential for you both to discover more about each other’s inner worlds. The more you learn about each other, the more you can...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 13, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
While our culture is death-obsessed in the morbid curiosity sense, we are also a grief-avoidant society. I learned this when working with clients and when my brother died. People, it turns out, so often don’t like to be around folks who are sad, nor do they know how...
by Courtenay Monfore | Sep 6, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Want a fulfilling relationship? It all begins with knowing and healing the real you. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi Our Need for Love Human beings are not made to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 19, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy
Putting in more effort than the other person is a common problem in relationships. And in a way, it’s a good problem to be giving too much in a relationship — it shows that you’re a caring person who wants to put yourself out for other people. But the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Lacking empathy for how their actions affect others, narcissists feel entitled to use other people. This makes it especially important to set firm boundaries with them. Here are seven effective approaches: 1. Don’t justify, explain, or defend yourself. Narcissists use...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 5, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy
Your friends and family don’t need to know these intimate details about your partner. When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to want to keep your friends and family in the loop about what’s happening with your partner. This person is a big part of your life,...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 21, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Fear of trust is so common it’s an official phobia: pistanthrophobia— a big name for an equally big problem. And while not trusting anyone keeps you safe from hurt and betrayal, it also leaves you isolated and suspicious. How does this happen? How does one lose faith...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 14, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
It isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it. Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of. It is essential and universal to all human beings, a driving force in our connections. It can...
