by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 3, 2020 | Blog, Brainspotting, Relationships, Trauma
You get upset. He blows up. She shuts down. The next day you can’t even remember why it bothered you so much. We’ve all been there, even therapists (we’re no more immune than anyone else). Here’s what I tell my clients about trauma and relationships, and the ways it...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships
In times of crisis, we often revert to things that used to give us comfort – eating our favorite snacks, watching favorite movies, and yes…even texting people who broke our hearts. Coronavirus gives a great excuse to reach out to someone who you...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 20, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships
This is a tough time for parents and families. With most of the country staying indoors to practice social distancing, “flatten the curve,” and decrease the spread of COVID-19, parents are finding themselves stressed out and stretched thin. Spending days on end as the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 13, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
Everyone has experienced pain and hurt at some point in their lives. We have all felt like our trust has been compromised, and we wonder if we will ever be able to trust again. Those experiences can be very painful, and the feelings are completely normal. You are...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 29, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
Even if you’re the kind of person friends describe as “super chill,” someone who prides yourself on the ability to keep cool when faced with all types of conflict, everyone experiences friction now and then—and that’s not inherently bad. The key, of course, is knowing...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Not long ago, I had a triggering conversation with my partner (yes, therapists are human and have triggering conversations too). But rather than going in on him, I said, “I need time to process what I’m feeling. At the time, I was not sure which one of my selves (the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 22, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
A true friend gives support without judgment, comes through in a crisis and knows just the right thing to say when it matters most. Friendships are an essential ingredient in a happy life, so it’s time to give them the care and attention they deserve. Keep reading to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 15, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
One couple came into session wielding weapons of war. Bryant complained that when they argued, he felt “mad and insignificant” and characterized his role within the marriage as a “little kid.” His wife shared her emotional experience of the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 8, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
The morning rush: shower, eat breakfast, get the kids dressed, start the day. The day: meetings, then calls, then more meetings. The evening: dinner, baths, bedtimes. Climb into bed, only to start over again. Lather, rinse, repeat. As working parents with a seemingly...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 1, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
Loneliness is a universal human experience that we all deal with from time to time. Loneliness is a state of mind that has less to do with being alone and more to do with feeling alone. That’s why people can feel lonely at work, at school or even in their friendships...
