by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 10, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy
Social anxiety activities are those things you can do to challenge your anxiety. Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is estimated to affect around 12% of the population at some point in their lives. People with SAD suffer in all areas of their lives; they have trouble...
by Courtenay Monfore | Aug 3, 2020 | Blog, Brainspotting, Relationships, Trauma
You get upset. He blows up. She shuts down. The next day you can’t even remember why it bothered you so much. We’ve all been there, even therapists (we’re no more immune than anyone else). Here’s what I tell my clients about trauma and relationships, and the ways it...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships
In times of crisis, we often revert to things that used to give us comfort – eating our favorite snacks, watching favorite movies, and yes…even texting people who broke our hearts. Coronavirus gives a great excuse to reach out to someone who you...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 20, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships
This is a tough time for parents and families. With most of the country staying indoors to practice social distancing, “flatten the curve,” and decrease the spread of COVID-19, parents are finding themselves stressed out and stretched thin. Spending days on end as the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 13, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Trauma
Everyone has experienced pain and hurt at some point in their lives. We have all felt like our trust has been compromised, and we wonder if we will ever be able to trust again. Those experiences can be very painful, and the feelings are completely normal. You are...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jul 6, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Therapy, Trauma
Shame is believing there is something innately wrong with us. Sometimes we don’t even recognize that how we are showing up in life is because we are full of shame. Until one day, shame makes and keeps us sick. Or we find ourselves stuck doing the same things over and...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 29, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
Even if you’re the kind of person friends describe as “super chill,” someone who prides yourself on the ability to keep cool when faced with all types of conflict, everyone experiences friction now and then—and that’s not inherently bad. The key, of course, is knowing...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 27, 2020 | Anxiety, Blog, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Not long ago, I had a triggering conversation with my partner (yes, therapists are human and have triggering conversations too). But rather than going in on him, I said, “I need time to process what I’m feeling. At the time, I was not sure which one of my selves (the...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 22, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
A true friend gives support without judgment, comes through in a crisis and knows just the right thing to say when it matters most. Friendships are an essential ingredient in a happy life, so it’s time to give them the care and attention they deserve. Keep reading to...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 15, 2020 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
One couple came into session wielding weapons of war. Bryant complained that when they argued, he felt “mad and insignificant” and characterized his role within the marriage as a “little kid.” His wife shared her emotional experience of the...
