by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 21, 2021 | Anxiety, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
Fear of trust is so common it’s an official phobia: pistanthrophobia— a big name for an equally big problem. And while not trusting anyone keeps you safe from hurt and betrayal, it also leaves you isolated and suspicious. How does this happen? How does one lose faith...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 14, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy, Trauma
It isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it. Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of. It is essential and universal to all human beings, a driving force in our connections. It can...
by Courtenay Monfore | Jun 7, 2021 | Relationships, Therapy
Is it possible to rebuild trust after your partner has been unfaithful? The loss of the relationship you envisioned can cause intense rage, jealousy, and sadness, and also raises many questions. Should you stay? Will things ever be the same? One thing is certain:...
by Courtenay Monfore | May 31, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
At some point in our life, we may have experienced being infatuated with someone. It’s blissful and euphoric, yet it can also be addicting and blinding. Without even realizing it, infatuation can take a toll on your life and cause an unhealthy mental situation....
by Courtenay Monfore | May 24, 2021 | Blog, Relationships
How to get your needs met in a way that considers all parties with kindness. Do you have a pattern of saying yes to others, but then feeling resentful later on? Do you believe that you must come to the aid of others and often give to get? You are not alone. Many of us...
by Courtenay Monfore | May 17, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
The rules governing romantic love are clearer. But few relationships are meant to last forever. When you first make a new friend, you probably aren’t thinking about the future and the possibility that the friendship will end. However, it is inevitable that...
by Courtenay Monfore | May 10, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
Raising mentally strong kids who are equipped to take on real-world challenges requires parents to give up the unhealthy — yet popular — parenting practices that are robbing kids of mental strength. Of course, helping kids build mental muscle isn’t easy — it requires...
by Courtenay Monfore | May 3, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
Happy couples repair, and they do so early and often. All couples argue. Happy couples argue well. They have strategies for dealing with their inevitable disagreements, and they process their feelings so they don’t bottle up. Therapists know that both partners in a...
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 26, 2021 | Blog, Relationships, Therapy
This formula will help your apologies mean so much more. “Look, I said I’m sorry. Can we just drop it now?” “I’m sorry, OK? I said I’m sorry.” “All right, fine. I’m sorry. Do you feel better now?” No, no, and no. The issue isn’t resolved just because you said sorry....
by Courtenay Monfore | Apr 19, 2021 | Blog, Relationships
26 suggestions. 1. You realize that most of the bad behavior of other people really comes down to fear and anxiety – rather than, as it is generally easier to presume, nastiness or idiocy. You loosen your hold on self-righteousness and stop thinking of the world as...
