How do you know you’ve found “the one”? Here are eight little green flags your partner is a keeper.

Ask most people how they knew their long-time partner was “the one” and they’ll give a half-shrug. “I don’t know, something just clicked,” they might say, or, “At some point early on, I just knew.”

That’s lovely for them, but not entirely helpful to you if you’re single and looking for pointers.

But while your friends might not get specific, there are a few qualities that good partners and relationships tend to have in common, right from the start. Below are eight subtle signs that you’ve found your person.

1. You love being together but encourage your partner to have a separate life outside your relationship.

I hear a lot of men and women griping about past relationships in which their partners spent too much time with their friends. I tell clients that they’re looking at it wrong: In a solid relationship ― one that goes the distance ― time spent apart isn’t a bug, it’s a feature.

The best pairings are the ones where both partners feel secure enough with each other to support their partner’s passions outside of the relationship. Whether you’re picking up a new hobby or hanging out with friends and family, you’re growing as an individual and bring that sense of self and growth back into your relationship.

2. They care about your opinions, and you care about theirs.

It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about politics, that day’s horoscope, or what your weird uncle Joe said after one too many drinks at Christmas, when you share your thoughts, your S.O. really wants to hear them. The same is true for you ― you’re genuinely interested in your partner’s opinion. (Even if you disagree, you like having an exchange of ideas.)